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Trusting The Process by Jen Aldana

As a musician, I am constantly in situations where I feel like I have to prove myself. As a graduate from Berklee College of Music I learned the ins-and-outs of what comparison looks like and how small you can feel when you are surrounded around thousands of people trying to do the very thing you want to do.

I have seen so many friends have their big break, and participate in some amazing once-in-a-lifetime opportunities. Most of the time, I am cheering for them and happy to support them. Like dang, I get to call these people my friends?! So cool! But there are also times I find myself asking: when will it be my turn?That question has been something that has been haunting me, especially since turning 25 this year. This was the time I pictured myself owning a home, being married, having an expensive car, living out my dream job and “having it all together”. I can’t begin to tell you how far I feel from that! And the crazy thing is, that it’s okay.

A wise person recently told me, “Be a great student in this season. You will need the valuable lessons of today when you arrive to your destination.” As easy as it is to compare myself to others, it really makes no sense, because when the time comes, my journey will be the only one that made sense for me to get to my dream. I don’t know what tomorrow looks like, and I don’t even know if I’ll ever feel like I’ve arrived, but As a musician, I am constantly in situations where I feel like I have to prove myself. As a graduate from Berklee College of Music I learned the ins-and-outs of what comparison looks like and how small you can feel when you are surrounded around thousands of people trying to do the very thing you want to do.

I have seen so many friends have their big break, and participate in some amazing once-in-a-lifetime opportunities. Most of the time, I am cheering for them and happy to support them. Like dang, I get to call these people my friends?! So cool! But there are also times I find myself asking: when will it be my turn?That question has been something that has been haunting me, especially since turning 25 this year. This was the time I pictured myself owning a home, being married, having an expensive car, living out my dream job and “having it all together”. I can’t begin to tell you how far I feel from that! And the crazy thing is, that it’s okay.

A wise person recently told me, “Be a great student in this season. You will need the valuable lessons of today when you arrive to your destination.” As easy as it is to compare myself to others, it really makes no sense, because when the time comes, my journey will be the only one that made sense for me to get to my dream. I don’t know what tomorrow looks like, and I don’t even know if I’ll ever feel like I’ve arrived, but for today, all I can do is stay focused, work like a dog, surround myself with inspiring people, and believe that my time will come when it’s meant to. There really is so much beauty in the process, I just have to trust it.for today, all I can do is stay focused, work like a dog, surround myself with inspiring people, and believe that my time will come when it’s meant to. There really is so much beauty in the process, I just have to trust it.

 

From Rejection To Redemption by April Krysiuk

Rejection is a unique and crippling feeling. It seems hopeless, like you’re reaching out into a small dark room for someone to hold your hand but you're completely alone. I’ve been fed the “you’re not wanted” and “you’re not good enough” lies. A lot of times those words are me speaking to myself. It’s crazy how we can become our own worst enemy. Even though you're taught your whole life that these are untrue, they still deeply hurt. I found the only way to overcome rejection is to accept your redemption. Why do we run away from the only one who has been there the whole time, carrying us through? When you leave your heart in God's hands something incredible happens- you find unimaginable peace. Not just with others, but with yourself. Your "rejection" becomes your redemption. Most of us make up scenarios in our minds, like I do. We feel like everyone hates us, when in reality we are deeply loved and treasured. Stop accepting the lies and start rewriting your story. 


The Law of Attraction by Hannah Weeks

There was a time in my life when I was stuck in a cycle of unhealthy relationships. I wanted to be loved by the “right person" and every time I would choose someone to let in I would end up in complete disappointment - I felt like a victim to heartbreak. 
Two years ago I found myself falling apart on my bathroom floor from the pain of another failed relationship. This time it hit me so hard that I knew something needed to change - I needed to start loving myself. 
That night I had a moment of clarity. I realized the type of guys I had been attracting were a direct reflection of who I was portraying myself to be. I was going out, drinking, wearing whatever made me get attention and hoping someone would paint over my insecurities with compliments and empty promises.

When I made a promise to start loving myself first, my world changed. I started working on my physical, mental and spiritual health. I wanted my true heart to be reflected on the outside, and when it finally started to, I felt like I was becoming the woman I always wanted to be. It wasn’t long after that I met my fiancé.

We attract True Love by our hearts - when your heart is living in the full Truth of who you really want to be, that is when we attract the Love that is perfectly aligned for each of us.”

 

Speak Truth Out Loud by Kelsie Watts

People underestimate the power of your words vs the power of your thoughts. Start counting to 100 in your head. Now start spelling your name out loud. Your words trump your thoughts.

I use this example to prove a point. When negative thoughts enter your mind- whether that be about your appearance, your self worth, etc. you MUST take those thoughts captive and SPEAK OUT LOUD truth.

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭10:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

You have a thought that you’re not beautiful? NO! You speak out loud- I know “I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (ps 139:14.) God doesn’t make junk!

You think you have no purpose in life? FALSE. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jer 29:11.)

You think you’re not enough bc a guy/girl doesn’t want to be with you? NOPE. “But you are [chosen], a royal priesthood...him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light” (1 Pet 2:9.)

You think you’ve messed up too bad? That you’re too far gone? THINK AGAIN. “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow--not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love” (rom 8:38.)

Here’s my point. Regardless of your beliefs, you MUST replace negative thoughts with truth. Not just positivity. Find something that works for you.