Have you ever broken a leg? An arm? Two arms at the same time? Even if you haven’t, we all know that physical injuries, especially those requiring some sort of cast, crutch, wheelchair, can take a long time to heal. For example, a minor fracture takes about six to eight weeks to heal depending on the person. More than likely you’ll need some assistance while healing until you can put weight on that bone again. Now imagine someone coming up to you and saying “Why can’t you just snap out of it?” Or “Maybe you should just try harder?” Can you seriously imagine that? Someone asking you “why aren’t you better yet?” I think we can all agree that would seem ridiculous. But yet, we do it every day with people who are struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, bipolar disorder and anything regarding mental health.Read More
My whole life I've identified as a "fixer." I enjoy finding solutions to problems whether it's with relationships or work. In everything I do, I am always striving to make things better or make sure things are "good." I like helping people so if I think there's anything I can do to fix or make a person's day better you can be sure I'll do whatever it takes to make sure that happens. Honestly, I'm actually pretty good at it. Maybe for that exact reason, I rarely find myself feeling like there's not a way to fix something, and if I do feel that way it typically only lasts for a crying session or two. After that, I'll wipe my tears away and begin to brainstorm of all the possible outcomes to make things "ok" again. That's how my brain has always worked and how I navigated my life. Or at least this is how I used to react to most hardships until I put myself in a position that caused me to feel like there's was no possible way to ever resolved the brokenness I was feelingRead More
“How are you?”
What I’m thinking: I’m having such a hard time. I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning. I’ve cried myself to sleep for months. I’m sad, depressed, lonely and scared. My life feels so overwhelming and I don’t know how to fix any of it. I don’t feel like myself and I have no clue how to change that.
What I say: "I’m great. How are you?"Read More