My whole life I've identified as a "fixer." I enjoy finding solutions to problems whether it's with relationships or work. In everything I do, I am always striving to make things better or make sure things are "good." I like helping people so if I think there's anything I can do to fix or make a person's day better you can be sure I'll do whatever it takes to make sure that happens. Honestly, I'm actually pretty good at it. Maybe for that exact reason, I rarely find myself feeling like there's not a way to fix something, and if I do feel that way it typically only lasts for a crying session or two. After that, I'll wipe my tears away and begin to brainstorm of all the possible outcomes to make things "ok" again. That's how my brain has always worked and how I navigated my life. Or at least this is how I used to react to most hardships until I put myself in a position that caused me to feel like there's was no possible way to ever resolved the brokenness I was feelingRead More
I was in a very emotionally, physically and sexually abusive relationship three years ago with a man that I loved very much. I remember all of my friends and family telling me I deserved so much better than what he was giving me. I never believed any of them and I would always take up for him. Maybe some of you have been there too? The truth is no one can tell you what you do or don’t deserve. Unfortunately, you have to figure your worth out for yourself.Read More
I think we can all agree that comparison is an exhausting and destructive mindset to have. Plain and simple... it sucks. If you think about it, we develop the habit of comparison very early on in life and it never really stops. It starts as early as childhood when we realize someone has a better toy or a bigger snack than we do. We are born with the desire to be the “best” and have the “most.”Read More
Loneliness is that feeling deep in your stomach where you start to feel like you are completely cut off from everyone. Loneliness is a feeling you can experience even while laying next to your spouse in bed or while hanging out with your closest friends. It is a feeling that has happened to me numerous times.Read More
“How are you?”
What I’m thinking: I’m having such a hard time. I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning. I’ve cried myself to sleep for months. I’m sad, depressed, lonely and scared. My life feels so overwhelming and I don’t know how to fix any of it. I don’t feel like myself and I have no clue how to change that.
What I say: "I’m great. How are you?"Read More