I think we can all agree that comparison is an exhausting and destructive mindset to have. Plain and simple... it sucks. If you think about it, we develop the habit of comparison very early on in life and it never really stops. It starts as early as childhood when we realize someone has a better toy or a bigger snack than we do. We are born with the desire to be the “best” and have the “most.”Read More
“Am I enough?”
It’s a question I ask myself constantly. Sometimes it’s about what I’m doing, the quality of my work, and oftentimes about who I am. My motto is “do it right or don’t do it at all.” A motto passed down by my dad whom I admire very much, and certainly have his genetic predisposition for quality and relentless hard work. It doesn’t sound bad right? I’ve certainly been noticed professionally and ended up with some great job opportunities because of it. The problem is that I looked at everything I did as a reflection of who I am. When I messed up, I would resent myself. It was a life of zero self-mercy. Which lead to total exhaustion and a pursuit of perfection.Read More
Unfortunately, that would not be my last experience as the odd man out. I honestly can’t remember a time when I haven’t felt like I truly stick out like a sore thumb. I’ve been the homeschooled kid, the sheltered one, the naïve one, the weirdo, the girl who is just a little too extra… just to name a few.
My experiences of not fitting in have left a lot of emotional scars. Scars that sometimes make me question if people truly like me for me or worry if one day will realize that I don’t belong and drop me like others have in my past. However, despite the hurt I’ve experienced from being left out I have discovered the beauty in embracing who you are.Read More
We all do it. When we look at a person’s social media account and it’s filled with photos that are posed to perfection, paired with clever captions, and flawless lighting. We look at all of those things and automatically think that person must have it all together. What we forget is that this picture is what this person chose to share with us, not a full representation of their everyday life. We don't see the person we are comparing ourselves to on their bad days. We never see the overslept messy hair looks, the stressed out and overworked breakdowns, or any of the many struggles that daily life can bring.
What makes us look at someone else’s highlight reel and compare it to our kid's dirty diapers and hamper full of clothes?Read More